Day 86: Gossip and Deceit

Day 86: Gossip and Deceit

Scripture Reading: Proverbs 26:17–28

Key Verse: “A lying tongue hates its victims, and a flattering mouth works ruin.” — Proverbs 26:28 (ESV)

Reflection

Words can heal, and words can wound. Solomon understood that the most dangerous battles are often fought with the tongue, not with fists. In this passage, he exposes the spiritual and relational damage caused by gossip, deception, and flattery—especially in leadership.

Getting involved in someone else’s conflict is foolish (v. 17).

Solomon compares it to grabbing a stray dog by the ears—you’re going to get bitten. Gossip often begins by inserting yourself into drama that isn’t yours to manage. Wise leaders know when to engage, and when to walk away.

Jokes can be a cover for cruelty (v. 18-19).

Ever heard someone say something cruel, then add, “I was just kidding!”? Solomon says that’s like a madman throwing flaming arrows. The intent may be masked, but the damage is real. Leaders must be honest and careful with humor, making sure their words build up instead of burning down.

Without fuel, gossip dies (v. 20-22).

A fire needs wood. Gossip needs listeners. If no one entertains it, it dies. But if we feed it—through curiosity, clicks, or careless ears—it spreads like wildfire. Gossip is tasty in the moment, but it poisons our perception and corrodes trust. Leadership calls for silence when others want to stir the pot, and wisdom to know when a conversation needs to end.

Deceit wears a smile (vv. 23–26).

Flattery may sound sweet, but if it’s hiding hate or selfish intent, it’s toxic. Solomon says some people speak graciously while harboring malice in their hearts. Their words are a mask, not a mirror. As leaders, we must cultivate discernment, able to spot insincerity and avoid the trap of shallow praise.

Flattery leads to ruin (v. 28).

A lying tongue and a flattering mouth don’t just deceive—they destroy. The person who manipulates with words hates those they harm, whether they realize it or not. Wise leaders use words to speak truth in love, build trust, and promote unity—never to manipulate or deceive.

Word Study: Flattery (חֵלֶק, cheleq)

The Hebrew word cheleq comes from a root meaning “to divide or smooth over.” It refers to insincere praise intended to manipulate or deceive—a way of “smoothing things over” while hiding true intent.

For leaders, cheleq is a warning: Don’t trade truth for applause, or integrity for influence.

Challenge

Reflect on your words and what they’re producing.

1. Are you allowing gossip to continue by listening or participating?

2. Are your compliments sincere, or do they come with hidden motives?

Write down one way this week you will commit to using your words to build, not break—whether by silencing gossip, speaking truth in love, or confronting deception.

Leadership in Action

Consider how you’re using your voice in leadership.

• Are you protecting your team or community from gossip and manipulation?

• Are you leading by example in truth-telling, integrity, and gracious communication?

This week, identify one conversation where you can steer away from gossip and toward edifying speech. Be the leader who brings clarity, not confusion.

Prayer

Father, guard my mouth and purify my heart. Help me to speak with wisdom, honesty, and grace. Keep me from gossip, flattery, and deceit. Let my words bring life, not ruin. Make me a leader who builds trust, defends truth, and honors You in every conversation. In Jesus’ name, amen.